Are you feeling stuck? There’s a way to take control of your life. Whether you are looking to increase your wealth, health or happiness, this will make a difference. You can design an exceptional life. And you can get started right now.
To begin, let’s clear the decks. Your mental space, physical space;distractions ,noise.
Take a moment. Shut the door. Turn off all the sounds. If you need to, get outside of your normal environment. Nature can be therapeutic.
Let It Go
Using breath awareness can quickly transform your emotional and mental state.
Sit comfortably. Take in a deep breathe and let out all the stress and anxiety of the day. Breathe in, let it out, and do it again. Flush out all the toxins by breathing out as long as you can until your stomach caves in. Try to make your lungs as empty as possible with each breath.
Get Yourself in A Resourceful State
Breathe in deeply. Now let it out slowly to a count of five. Do this 5 times.
Now you are ready to tap into your greatest resources with questions.
Ask A Better Question
To improve the quality of a life, it begins with questions. Isn’t thinking just questions? (Hey, that’s a question!)
Most of us have the same average questions running in the operating systems of our minds. They were installed long ago without us even thinking.
It’s funny when comedians say it, because they give voice to what’s inside our heads.
“Ugh, why do I have to go to work today?”
“Is he looking at me weird? Why does everyone hate me?”
“Ugh, I can’t believe I did that. What’s wrong with me?”
These types of statements and questions are so common and yet so damaging. They make you feel terrible. Would you speak to someone you care about in that manner? Then why do you speak to yourself that way? These negative questions set a standard because the way they are phrased make it seem that they contain truth- but they don’t..
“Why does everyone hate me?”
Really? I am hated – is that really true? Of course not!
“What’s wrong with me” presupposes that there is something actually wrong with me.
These types of questions take you down a certain path that do not lead you to your best resourceful self and to your own exceptional life.
Here’s some daily questions I use to put myself in a fantastic state.
1) What Is My Mission?
Do you have a goal or goals? What about more than a goal, do you have a purpose? A mission?
By writing it down daily, it steeps into your consciousness. It gets into your blood, your body, and triggers the magic.
2) If I Could Live Today Over Again?
Time is fleeting. When I became a father, I became much more aware of time. It’s incredible how fast it goes. When my son was two, it was difficult as I was sleeping very little. But then it was gone so quick. He went from crawling to standing to walking to running and riding a bike. It’s crazy. By answering this question BEFORE the day begins, I become aware of what’s important right now and what I NEED to do to make my use of this time complete.
3) What Is My Theme For This Year?
For the past few years, I’ve been using a theme to motivate myself. It’s different than a goal which is usually external. This is how I will act, be and feel as I move towards this goal. Example, “The year of compassionate kindness and loving myself.”
4) What Do I Get To Enjoy Today?
You ever feel like everyone is having all the fun? That everyone really is living like their Instagram and Facebook feeds? To quiet this part of the mind, I use this question. By answering it, I get to know that I have taken time to choose an activity that I too will enjoy today. It’s important to have time to do what you enjoy.
Read a detective mystery. Walk in the park. Sit by the water. Have a cup of tea.
5) Who or What am I Most Grateful For?
Gratitude has been shown to be the most important feeling for happiness in life. So ask yourself a question that makes you feel grateful. Start your day with gratitude flowing through your whole body.
I spend a few minutes giving thanks to my Creator. My family, our well-being, our love and health. My mentors, angels, teachers and associates who guide and help me every single day. My Mom who left the world way too soon and gave me so many talents, gifts and confidence. Thank you. My mother-in-law, who taught me about kindness, compassion and welcomed me into her family. My friend, mentor and teacher, Andy Blackett who has shaped my life in so many ways.
But Isn’t This Just Talking To Myself?
I know there is skepticism as to how asking yourself different questions can actually do anything. “I’m just talking to myself” you may say. But the way you talk to yourself, your “self-talk” or thoughts actually shape the way you experience your reality. Nothing is more important than learning to ask yourself the right questions to begin designing your exceptional life!
In future posts, I’ll delve into the metaphysical magic that makes this all work. And I’d love to know how you get on with your lifestyle design. Please share in the comments below.