joyful living

A great question to ask someone when you first meet

I wasn’t comfortable speaking to people.  My whole childhood was trying to fit in.  So I didn’t really want to be noticed for being unique.  I was too unique.  The only Asian kid in a whole community.

Over time, I began to get some comfort.  Awkwardness fell away and I <gasp> became attractive to girls.

One thing I’ve always been, is insatiably curious.  I’m curious about too many things!  If I could only just concentrate on one discipline.  But no!  I had to be curious about music, art, history, how to build stuff, how to cook, what are the secrets of the Universe.

Over time, I’ve come up with a few favorite questions I like to ask people when I first meet them.

Here’s one:

What’s your favorite word, and why?

You can learn a lot about people from their favorite word.  It tells you about their personality, their breadth of knowledge, even their reading history.

When I was a journalist in the music business, I had a lot of access to rock stars, producers, managers and record executives.  Most were not that interesting.  But I learned a lot about the biz, the good, the bad, the ugly and the rare beauty.

My favorite word is “resonance.”

I love how the sound of the word is so resonant itself.  It permeates my body, mind, my thoughts.

We are all vibrating beings and to resonate means we are in harmony, in tune, vibrating together.  We are on the same frequency.  Or perhaps a complimentary one.  Like an octave, a fifth or some other beautiful interval.

Maybe that’s why I’m a musician, composer and music teacher.  But I believe resonance goes beyond that.  It goes through our thinking, being, feeling.  It’s in my cooking.  It’s in how I walk, I laugh, I run, I ride a bike.  Resonance.

What’s your favorite word?  Why?  Please share below.

By ingkavet

Andrew Ingkavet is an educator, author and entrepreneur.
His belief that learning a musical instrument builds skills vital to success in life has led to a thriving music school in Brooklyn, NY. Internationally, Andrew helps music teachers with the Musicolor Method, an online curriculum/training as well as a 5 star-rated book,The Game of Practice: with 53 Tips to Make Practice Fun. He is also founder of 300 Monks, a music licensing company.

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